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It amazes me how young girls are when they start becoming interested in boobs.  Madison and her friends all started wearing pre-training bras last school year.  I guess it’s to mimic what they see in their mothers, but wow at age 7!  Ava is totally fascinated by body parts, all body parts.  She threw a fit when she was told she wasn’t going to have a penis when she grew up, an all out tantrum!  She was devastated that she wouldn’t be able to pee standing up.  She also talks about boobs and how she’ll have them when she gets older.  The other day I was getting out of the shower and bent over for something and she said “MOM! YOU HAVE BIG BOOBIES!”  I was like, Umm okay I really don’t have huge boobs, but they may seem that way to a flat chested 2 year old.  It made me laugh, she’s such a character especially the look of amazement on her face, it’s kind of uncomfortable to be getting check out by a two year old that is very observant and asks if she’ll have body hair when she gets older.

I’m not saying I don’t notice boobs because I do.  As a girl I think you notice those things sometimes, you see what you like and wish you had it.  When I go swimming and see younger girls with perky boobs I wish mine were perky instead of falling south.  I’m totally laughing right now because I can see Nate wanting to hurl – his sister is talking about BOOBS!!  That’s right I said BOOBS!

My husband is probably going to die because I am writing a blog about boobs.  He about had a cow once when my father-in-law and I were talking about breast implants and reductions.  Nothing graphic just that people get them, etc.  He also almost fell over and died when he told me that he knew someone with tattoos on their boobs, one said milk and the other said beer.  I thought it was pretty funny, but my husband couldn’t believe he would tell me that.  Maybe it’s a line he feels shouldn’t be crossed – you know you don’t want to think about your parents engaging in activities that would involve nakedness…GROSS!  Or your father talking to your wife about boobs.  It doesn’t bother me, they are just boobs!  I feel he crosses the line every time he says things to me about his parents “knocking boots”.  GOSH!  Mental imagery I could do without!  I don’t want mental imagery of anyone having sex, especially our parents! BLAHHH!  He says things to get my reaction.  Luckily those comments are far and few between.

So the moral of the story…there isn’t one, it’s just boob talk.  Boobs, some are big, some are small.  Some droop and others are perky.  My mom and I found this website a few years ago that had pictures of boobs…ok, that might sound pornographic, but it wasn’t, it was a medical website discussing differences in breast, and some breast abnormalities.  If you ever want to feel better about your own boobs find that site!  All I can say is WOW!!   It’s pretty educational.

I want to understand people and where they are coming from…understand why they think the way they do or what they are thinking at all.  I really care about the people in my life and the relationships I have with them, so I really want to understand them and  I find it so FRUSTRATING when I can’t seem to understand someone.  So I seek out more information so I can get a clear picture of the person.  I feel like I am one of the most open-minded, accepting people there are…infact that’s what my personality profile says , so I don’t want information to judge a person, but to have a better more accurate perception or understanding of what they are all about.  It helps me pinpoint some personality differences and why.  I just want to understand ( I can’t stress that enough) so that I know how to better handle things with other people.  I gave up on really caring if other people understand me, but I would really like to understand how other people work.  For example, I’ve said things before that weren’t meant in a derogatory way what-so-ever, but the person took them very differently, which I just didn’t understand, and really it still perplexes me.  I’m perplexed, but coming to a better understanding of why that happened based on the personality profile. For me if I’m upset with you, I probably won’t tell you because I HATE confrontation, but I will try to resolve things in a tactful gentle way.  I say what I mean the majority of the time.  There is nothing to read in between the lines, I’ll just tell you straight out if my feelings were hurt, or if there is a problem, and I would do it gently, if I decide to share how I feel.  However, other people might take my gentleness or what I think is a pretty straightforward statement and read more into it.  When dealing with conflict I think very carefully about what I’m going to say before I say it (most of the time) so there won’t be hurt feelings, and so I’m more clear headed and not being ruled by my feelings or anger.

I don’t think typing is bad, but our types can change so we should be open to the fact that people evolve and change and so might their type.  My type is an even split between ISTP and ISFP. I still hate labels.

If you are interested in personality profiles my favorite, and the most extensive that I’ve found is the Kiersey Temperment Sorter.  Excellent books and explanations for those seeking the information.  I think it just gives us a better understanding of different personalities and why they are the way they are.  Of course everyone has their own experiences that make them who they are and not everything is going to be completely accurate, but it’s pretty close most of the time.

I – introverted or  E – extroverted

S – sensory       or N – iNtuition

T- thinking       or F – feeling

P – perception.  or J- judging

I think labeling people is also unnecessary and limiting.  Once someone is labeled it’s seems hard to find a different label, to break free from the ideas people have about you or the ideas you have about yourself based on a label.  I think people are constantly changing and evolving so what might fit someone at one time won’t fit them as they grow and discover more of themselves and the world. Aren’t our tastes constantly changing and evolving?  I know that mine has changed and evolved from something more of a country girl to something more modern, literally and figuratively.   My style of clothing has changed, the way I decorate and the colors I use have changed, and I can’t imagine ever going back to what I used to, wear, or decorate.  Isn’t it the same for our ever changing and evolving selves?  Honestly, I don’t care how people choose to label me, they are only limiting themselves to what they see in me or anyone else, but I find it sad sometimes that people would limit themselves and others so much.

Not all “labeling” is bad.  I think personality typing can be a useful tool.

To be continued…..

What else would it be?? The crazy follows me wherever I go, it just a different kind!

I hear people say all the time that they are so glad when their kids are home for the summer. I must be a bad mom because I dread it. If my kids would just get along I wouldn’t mind it so much, but the fighting is unbearable and very stressful. Plus with two special needs (Adhd) children, and one also suffering form other disorders it is very taxing on everyone!!

This was the best news I could have gotten!!