New Site

I know, I know.  I just can’t seem to make up my mind.  I wanted to be able to better customize my themes so I have my site hosted by someone else.  It’s not quite ready, but it will be thediaryofacrazywoman.com.  That’s what I’m working on so this site probably won’t get updated again, but all of the post that are here are also at the new site.

Thanks everyone for checking it out!!

Ava is the Funniest Girl!

The other day I was sitting in the chair, and I asked Mia if she was poopy, she responded, “Yes.” So I asked her to get a diaper so I could changer her. Ava immediately jumped in and said, “I’ll do it! I’ll change Mia’s diaper!” I told her I didn’t think she’d want to because she was poopy, but she assured me she did. So she tells Mia to lay down, then to move her body. She took off Mia’s pants, carefully unfastened her diaper and peeled it back from her body. I just had to see what she would do so I filmed it. I hope you enjoy.

Mom Update

Ok, I know you all are dying for another update! She sounds like she feels better, but it will be at least a few more weeks before she can get her throat fixed, but getting some strength back. She really just wants to get it all done and move on with her life, but a little nervous they’ll go in to fix her throat and find something new. Poor mom, it all just sucks!

Boobs

I was watching E! news last night and they were saying that more and more actresses are getting breast reductions instead of getting them enlarged.  I think it’s great that people are accepting the fact that small boobs are okay.  I don’t get what the big thing is about them anyway, they’re just boobs.  Really, when you think about it they consist of mostly fat and all women have them and so do some men (which is just wrong)!  What’s so attractive about two big lumps of fat?  Hahaha my husband hates it when I say that, it ruins them for him.

It amazes me how young girls are when they start becoming interested in boobs.  Madison and her friends all started wearing pre-training bras last school year.  I guess it’s to mimic what they see in their mothers, but wow at age 7!  Ava is totally fascinated by body parts, all body parts.  She threw a fit when she was told she wasn’t going to have a penis when she grew up, an all out tantrum!  She was devastated that she wouldn’t be able to pee standing up.  She also talks about boobs and how she’ll have them when she gets older.  The other day I was getting out of the shower and bent over for something and she said “MOM! YOU HAVE BIG BOOBIES!”  I was like, Umm okay I really don’t have huge boobs, but they may seem that way to a flat chested 2 year old.  It made me laugh, she’s such a character especially the look of amazement on her face, it’s kind of uncomfortable to be getting check out by a two year old that is very observant and asks if she’ll have body hair when she gets older.

I’m not saying I don’t notice boobs because I do.  As a girl I think you notice those things sometimes, you see what you like and wish you had it.  When I go swimming and see younger girls with perky boobs I wish mine were perky instead of falling south.  I’m totally laughing right now because I can see Nate wanting to hurl – his sister is talking about BOOBS!!  That’s right I said BOOBS!

My husband is probably going to die because I am writing a blog about boobs.  He about had a cow once when my father-in-law and I were talking about breast implants and reductions.  Nothing graphic just that people get them, etc.  He also almost fell over and died when he told me that he knew someone with tattoos on their boobs, one said milk and the other said beer.  I thought it was pretty funny, but my husband couldn’t believe he would tell me that.  Maybe it’s a line he feels shouldn’t be crossed – you know you don’t want to think about your parents engaging in activities that would involve nakedness…GROSS!  Or your father talking to your wife about boobs.  It doesn’t bother me, they are just boobs!  I feel he crosses the line every time he says things to me about his parents “knocking boots”.  GOSH!  Mental imagery I could do without!  I don’t want mental imagery of anyone having sex, especially our parents! BLAHHH!  He says things to get my reaction.  Luckily those comments are far and few between.

So the moral of the story…there isn’t one, it’s just boob talk.  Boobs, some are big, some are small.  Some droop and others are perky.  My mom and I found this website a few years ago that had pictures of boobs…ok, that might sound pornographic, but it wasn’t, it was a medical website discussing differences in breast, and some breast abnormalities.  If you ever want to feel better about your own boobs find that site!  All I can say is WOW!!   It’s pretty educational.

Personality Typing

I don’t think ALL labels are bad, in fact some can help us better understand other people with personality typing.  I guess it’s more of a personality type more than a label.  Personality typing is a very useful tool when it comes to communication and understanding other people.  For example, my mother-in-law and I are very different in our communication styles and in the way we express ourselves.   We have a lot of other differences too, but the two I find frustrating are those that I mentioned because it seems we just keep getting our lines crossed – misunderstanding each other.  It’s not because either of us does it wrong, we’re just very different and personality typing is helping me figure out some of the reasons we have those differences, and how I can do things so we better understand each other.

I want to understand people and where they are coming from…understand why they think the way they do or what they are thinking at all.  I really care about the people in my life and the relationships I have with them, so I really want to understand them and  I find it so FRUSTRATING when I can’t seem to understand someone.  So I seek out more information so I can get a clear picture of the person.  I feel like I am one of the most open-minded, accepting people there are…infact that’s what my personality profile says , so I don’t want information to judge a person, but to have a better more accurate perception or understanding of what they are all about.  It helps me pinpoint some personality differences and why.  I just want to understand ( I can’t stress that enough) so that I know how to better handle things with other people.  I gave up on really caring if other people understand me, but I would really like to understand how other people work.  For example, I’ve said things before that weren’t meant in a derogatory way what-so-ever, but the person took them very differently, which I just didn’t understand, and really it still perplexes me.  I’m perplexed, but coming to a better understanding of why that happened based on the personality profile. For me if I’m upset with you, I probably won’t tell you because I HATE confrontation, but I will try to resolve things in a tactful gentle way.  I say what I mean the majority of the time.  There is nothing to read in between the lines, I’ll just tell you straight out if my feelings were hurt, or if there is a problem, and I would do it gently, if I decide to share how I feel.  However, other people might take my gentleness or what I think is a pretty straightforward statement and read more into it.  When dealing with conflict I think very carefully about what I’m going to say before I say it (most of the time) so there won’t be hurt feelings, and so I’m more clear headed and not being ruled by my feelings or anger.

I don’t think typing is bad, but our types can change so we should be open to the fact that people evolve and change and so might their type.  My type is an even split between ISTP and ISFP. I still hate labels.

If you are interested in personality profiles my favorite, and the most extensive that I’ve found is the Kiersey Temperment Sorter.  Excellent books and explanations for those seeking the information.  I think it just gives us a better understanding of different personalities and why they are the way they are.  Of course everyone has their own experiences that make them who they are and not everything is going to be completely accurate, but it’s pretty close most of the time.

I – introverted or  E – extroverted

S – sensory       or N – iNtuition

T- thinking       or F – feeling

P – perception.  or J- judging

“Designer” Labels

I’ve never been one that has liked labels, I think it’s to restricting, and unnecessary.   I’ve always hated labels of all kinds except for the kind on my food.  I hate designer labels the most…I think because they are associated with a class in society…you know if you wear this certain label it means you are higher class.  In high school it was all about wearing the “right” clothes, if you were Guess, Girbau, Banana Republic, or Liz Claiborne you were in the “IN” crowd.  I find that so superficial.  I also think people who feel they have to wear those clothes to be someone special are fooling themselves.  I almost avoid those labels soley on the social status they “represent”.  Designer labels don’t make us who we are, and we certainly shouldn’t be judged in popularity based on the labels that we wear!!

I think labeling people is also unnecessary and limiting.  Once someone is labeled it’s seems hard to find a different label, to break free from the ideas people have about you or the ideas you have about yourself based on a label.  I think people are constantly changing and evolving so what might fit someone at one time won’t fit them as they grow and discover more of themselves and the world. Aren’t our tastes constantly changing and evolving?  I know that mine has changed and evolved from something more of a country girl to something more modern, literally and figuratively.   My style of clothing has changed, the way I decorate and the colors I use have changed, and I can’t imagine ever going back to what I used to, wear, or decorate.  Isn’t it the same for our ever changing and evolving selves?  Honestly, I don’t care how people choose to label me, they are only limiting themselves to what they see in me or anyone else, but I find it sad sometimes that people would limit themselves and others so much.

Not all “labeling” is bad.  I think personality typing can be a useful tool.

To be continued…..

Blog introduction

I decided to start this blog a few weeks ago, I even set it up, but just haven’t written anything yet.  I decided to keep my ideas, philosophies, and how I feel about things seperate from my other blog at thediaryofacrazywoman.blogspot.com .   I think there are people that read my other blog that are purely there for updates on family life, and don’t really care to read my rants or thoughts on other things.  I hope in this blog to feel free to really say what I think and not feel limited like I have by my other blog to an extent.  So here’s to a fresh start, and on to new topics.  I’m excited to try out a new blog site too, blogspot seems so limited to me.

New Blog Announcement

I know, again right? I’ve been working on this other one for a few weeks now, just trying to figure out what I was going to post. Well, I couldn’t sleep this morning after I was rudely awakened by my orange cat laying on my stomach and scratching at the covers so I’d wake up. I’ve been up since 4:00 and for two hours tried to go back to sleep, but it just didn’t happen. I started thinking of all the things that are stressing me out right now, sometimes I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders, but I’m not here to discuss what my stress is. Trying to get my mind off of those things that stress me out I started thinking about what I’ve been doing over the last couple of days, and why I find it so interesting and important to understand. I started thinking about some of my ideals and philosophies and decided that is what I’d post on the new blog. I know a lot of people visit this blog for family updates and probably don’t care so much to read the other stuff so I want to keep it separate. So, now it actually has a post that I’ve published and it’s ready for the world to see.

thediaryofacrazywoman.wordpress.com

What else would it be?? The crazy follows me wherever I go, it just a different kind!

Kindergarten Here We Come

So, today my mood drastically improved after receiving a letter in the mail from the school in regards to Dylan attending Kindergarten. It brings me such excitement to say Dylan was accepted into all day Kindergarten!! I am so thrilled because I think he needs it, and he’s almost six so he’s definitely old enough to be able to handle a full day. I think it will be good for him (and for me) to be in all day kindergarten receiving the “extra” time to help him be ready for First Grade especially since he’ll be pulled out two days a week for 30 minutes for speech, and 30 minutes every day for resource. It will be a much needed break for me, and great structure and routine for him.

I hear people say all the time that they are so glad when their kids are home for the summer. I must be a bad mom because I dread it. If my kids would just get along I wouldn’t mind it so much, but the fighting is unbearable and very stressful. Plus with two special needs (Adhd) children, and one also suffering form other disorders it is very taxing on everyone!!

This was the best news I could have gotten!!

A Blast From the Past!!